My mom, the great jewelry queen, asked me to write another post for her blog. And for a while I’ve been hesitating. I would like it to have a sort of relation to what she’s doing – and at the same time offer something personal. And since Irene has chosen to bring up new, deeper topic such as ”how to make a plan to be happy”, I got an idea.
I guess that it’s not uncommon that many people sometimes make a pause to look at themselves and ask, if they are going the right way in life. For some it might come as a result of a tragic happening and for others maybe as a part of a spiritual development. For me it came somewhere between being a teenager in identity crisis and stepping into my twenties. To be more precise it started and then never really went away again. Maybe it came with being raised to think with my conscience. I suppose that it’s never too late to give the credits for that to my mom; so thank you mom
As a teenager I once asked myself following question:
“If I die today – what will people then say about me at my funeral?”
Feeling bummed and a bit upset about not knowing the answer to this question, I started assuming the worst. That nobody had any good things to say about me. I’d be a story of the girl who nobody truly knew – or worst of all – they didn’t like (classical problematic for a female teen in an identity crisis – yes). But then it came to me. I had a dream. I dreamed about having a life full of people and love. Someone I would miss, and someone who would miss me (and say nice things about in case I should be the first one to pass away)
So you might think that this is a sort of creepy perspective on life and how to be a good person… And I suppose that it could be seen like that too. In reality I’d say it was the thoughts of a conscience trying to manifest in the body of a young person trying to turn into an adult. Accepting my fate; that I should become a friendly person (oh, what terrible fate, haha). Leaving the years of being a competitive teenager to being an embracing woman
I saw this photo on a Pinterest website the other day – and it kind of summed it up to me:
Okay, I think that making it all about the women isn’t really the point I wanted to make – however, it did have a connection to my experience. Of course men can have similar experiences when finding out that we are all stronger when we help each other.
Back to my own solution… What I realized was – that every time I wanted to make a decision, I asked myself following question: “What would a good person do?” or “Would I be proud of myself when making this choice?” And automatically the right answer got a lot easier to find. This path has led me a long way in becoming who I am today. And may I add; the nagging feeling of guilty conscience or a little voice telling me that I’m “no good” fell into the background and never returned again.
This was my way to reach a goal. Now my question to you would be; have you set a goal and reached it? Will you share this goal with the rest of us and tell us, how you made it?
I wish all of you the very best day.
- The daughter.