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Friends – how ?



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Are you a good friend?


There are several kind of friendships.

The peripheral friend, where you know the name and a little more about the other person.

The related friend, maybe your families friend or friends friend.

The good friend as you know much about and they do also know much about you.

The close friend as know almost all about you or at least the things you did choose to share.

The very close friend as we can define as a family member, we did choose ourselves.


What define you as a good friend? What are you doing to keep your friendships alive? Are you available when your friends need you, no matter what time it is? Do you remember to call and just ask, how are you, to your friends? Even you are busy, this is possible. We need to remember to appreciate our friends, while we have them.

It can be difficult to find time enough to be the good friend we wish to be. Jobs, family and kids take most of our time, but our friends are important to have too, even you don’t feel, that you need them right now. One day it can be too late, if you forget to keep the contact. We can all have periods in our lives, where we are very busy, sick or depressed and then the abundance are much less than usual. In those times it is wonderful to have good friends, as will remember you, if you did not forget them, when they needed you.


How do you define a good friend for you?

I try to be a good friend for my friends and I make mistakes too. When I don’t feel the abundance, I’m very bad to remember to contact my friends. Then I have been so very lucky, that those friends did contact me anyway. In other times I try to be the good friend, who helps my friends, where ever I can and they are always welcome to call me, also in the middle of the night, if they really need to talk.

What do you need from your friends? Are you the friend who gives the needed attention or the one, who always receive?

Friendship goes both ways, we need to be there for each other, when the other need us. Like when you need a good friend for talking. We need to support each other best possible.

I appreciate honesty and loyalty very much in my friendships, just like the mutual respect for each other are very important.

What is friendship for you? I would really like to know.


I hope you did enjoy reading.



Comments on: "Friends – how ?" (13)

  1. A really good post Irene. I try to be the friend that is there in the middle of the night when someone needs to talk, or needs someone to just hold their hand. I have done that many times, and have one friend who will return that love. I also have the “friends” who ask for help, which I willingly give, but who are not available if I need them myself. That’s okay. We all live with what we do, and I sleep well on the nights I sleep. One of the people I once asked to help me is now in a nursing home, friendless, and not knowing anyone around her. I have visited her, but she lives in a world that is empty now. My world is full, my mind and heart at peace. And I now have friends around the world I will never meet, but who know me through my words, and who I know through their words. These are new treasures I am grateful for.

    • Your experience with friends who will not be there for you tell a lot without more words needed.
      You sound like a very good friend Angie, I’m grateful to meet you in here 😀

  2. Good friendships are hard to find. I appreciate the reminder to cherish the friends that we do have. A friend to me, is someone who cares about you just as much as they do about themselves.

  3. Excellent post. I think you have defined the various levels of friendship very well. I don’t know if I am a very good friend. I have no close friends, The people who know the most about me are the good people who read my blog and I read theirs. I am introverted and don’t do small talk well at all, so I come across a bit abrupt and distant. I am learning to change this because I would love to have a friend to meet for lunch from time to time, or to call when I am feeling lonely, and who can call me for the same reason. I do have some friends who are my husband’s old school friends. I do no feel close to them and they wouldn’t drop everything and come to my aid, but they are people to meet and talk with. I am also trying to become friends with my estranged sisters. I have learned that friendships take a while to grow and need care, as you say. It is a commitment and one I have a bit of trouble making. I want a lot of a friend, but I’m not sure I can give the same. I’d like to try.

    My growing sense of being a part of the world and being connected to everyone and everything is very rewarding. Being friendly and kind to everyone I meet, makes me feel less lonely and happy and as if I have a lot of peripheral friends..

  4. I have very good friends who love and support me as I love and support them. I’m not one for heaps of friends, but I do value good, deep, kind friendships. I have friends from 40 years ago at university and many made in between then and now, but I don’t go for superficial friendships, I like those that are long-lasting and I spend a lot of time staying in touch with my friends, too easy to lose contact.

  5. Love this post.I am a giver, and I make an effort to always to be there for my friends. I try to be a good listener, and am always happy for the good in my friends’ lives. I have 2 very close friends, like sisters, who know me inside out and have always been there for me. It makes a difference in life to know you have friends like that. I am friendly to many, but really only share my true self with these 2 friends.

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