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Love has many different kind of definitions and we do all use the word Love in different ways, because we are different in mind

For one, Love can be the most important in life, if this person can be able to love one another more, than their own life

For another, Love has other definitions

I feel, that the most important must be to love one self, before we are able to love another soul with an open and honest heart. For me, this is some of a place to reach

I find it also very important to teach our kids to love themselves and that they always are worth loving. No matter, what they do, they are lovable. Sometimes we need to show our kids the way, which often works much better, than only by talking about it. Don’t be scared to tell and show your kids the way, then learn much more by, what they see, you are doing

We do all learn by life and learn by own experiences. We do acts, as are not the best choices, but they are ours, we own them, and we are responsible for these choices. If we are acting in less good ways, the only one, who are able to change this, is one selves

We are only responsible for our own life and can not blame others, if our life is going in a way, as we don’t wish it to. No one can read our thoughts, even many would like them to or even expect them to do so. Then we need to look inside and find out, which way will be the right one for us and then ACT at this. Everything else is just dreaming…

As I have mentioned before, life is, what we make out of it. Live out your dreams, don’t ever expect others to live out your dreams. No matter, how old we are, it is never too late to do something to change our circumstances. We just need to find out, what is most important for us in our life, then think deeply about this and find out, what is needed to do, for being able to change, so we can live our life, as we – until now – only have been dreaming about

Any relationship should be build at mutual respect and a kind of love. Without mutual respect it is difficult to build any kind of healthy relationship, whatever it is as a lover or a friend. The more long time, as we know each other, the more we get to know about each other. Something are very lovable and other things not

It is different, how we are developing inside a relationship. Either we are developing in same direction and the love are growing day by day, which is wonderful, when this is possible

In many relationships, we are developing in different ways, either because of job, more or new education, friends or interests. While we are young, the world seems to be open and full of possibilities. It is not always easy to choose the right path and other we change our path several times, before we find out, where we wish to stay and live in this life. While all this is going on, we can look at our friends and see, some are staying where they chose to be for many years ago, they are still there, others has been changing their path many times and some have still not found their way of life yet. When we are in a relationship for love, we do still learn new every day, if we wish to and sometimes we do develop in each direction by time. One day we might find out, that this relationship is not, what we would like it to be. We are now too different and might also have different ways of living our dream life. This can end up with a break in the relationship, which often will be the best of all involved, even there are also kids involved

If we wish to teach our kids to live and stay honest to themselves, we do also need to do exactly the same to ourselves. This is also, what they learn by and to stay in a relationship only because you have kids together, is often a bad solution

We wish all the best for our kids, this is also why, we need to teach them to live our life in love to ourselves and I don’t mean this in an egoistic way. If we teach our kids to love themselves, they will be strong enough to choose for themselves later in life, to live in a healthy and loving relationship and don’t stay in a place, where they are not able to feel alive any longer

I have been changing my path many times in my life. I have followed my dreams many times, not all went well, but I learned a lot by this, which I can use to take better choices for the rest of this life. I hope by this, to have taught my kids to live a loving life, where they are able to develop themselves and no one are allowed to stop them in this. To live and love with mutual respect

Irene

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Some/Sum – This post is part of SoCS


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Some relations is life are more healthy for us than others and it is not always easy to see the difference, while we stand in the middle of them. Some indicators there are, if we are awake to see them, what ever we are in love or just have found new souls in our lives.

I think that most of us know how it is to be in love. We are in a temporary crazy condition, where we don’t see the forest for trees. We do only see, what we wish to see and nothing else. After a while, for some a short while and other demand longer time, we start to see that not all are sugar coated as we felt in the very beginning.

We start to see the less attractive in our new partners, as we were not able to see in the beginning. If this is not too overwhelming, we can go on and learn to live with it. If it just seems to be too much, we should take a look deep inside ourselves and ask if we really are able to live with those conditions for next long time, maybe for the rest of our lives?

When we are in love, what ever it is in a partner or in a new friend, which is also a kind of love, we seem to get temporary blinded and not see anything but positivity. Then it is good to find out, if this relation really also is good to us, no matter what our heart are telling us right now.

It is a very good idea to learn to listen to our intuition and follow this, no matter we wish to or not. It is very rare, that our inner voice, the intuition, are wrong.

As it often are happening, we fall in love in our opposite, which should help us to be more complete, if this is a good and healthy relation for us. Often it is not, even we think so.

Instead of waiting in years to find out, it might be a good idea to wake up and find out, before we jump into this relation with all we have and are. Then we can save ourselves for more pain than necessary.

Sometimes we start to get physically ill, before we find out, that something might be wrong. We need to remember that our mind need to be feeded in a good way, otherwise our body react with illness and sometimes too late.

I do really hope, that you think twice, before you jump into your next relationsship, whatever it is in a partner or in a friend.

What is your experience in all this?

Wish you all good luck 🙂

Irene

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This post is part of the prompt SoCS by Linda, as you can find here:

http://lindaghill.com/2015/06/26/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-june-2715/

Linda wrote: Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “some/sum.”  Use either or both words, or choose a word in which either are used as a prefix or suffix. Have an awesome time with it!

Emotional Intelligence – This post is a part of SoCS


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Cherry trees from my new garden. We are in the middle of the movement now.

 

Emotional Intelligence is very much in need in our world today

We need to remember, that we are only responsible for what we are saying to other people, but not for what other people are hearing, that is their responsibility. We need to learn to talk clearly, so we make it easy for other people to understand, what we are trying to tell them.

 There are many ways to communicate with other people. It is so very easy to misunderstand, what our partner, kids, family or co-workers are trying to tell us, if we are not awake to listen very good, often also behind the words. When we communicate with other people, we need to remember, that all of us come with a background from childhood, culture & family, as all had affected our way to mind in our life today.

Not all have been blessed to have a loving and caring family, who did give hugs and kisses for free.

Many did need to fight hard just to receive credit for what they did and not for just being themselves. It is important to learn from childhood, that you are good enough, even you did not do anything special. How many adults are fighting just to learn, that they are good enough, just as they are?  Without they do anything else than just being themselves?

All these about, we need to learn to love ourselves, before we are able to love another soul, is not very easy to learn, if we did not learn this from our childhood. It can be a very tough fight to come so far in our personal development, if we ever will at all.

Emotional Intelligence is most easy to learn, when you come from a childhood with a lot of love, where you were good enough, just because you were existing. Your company was appreciated, you were needed in the family and missed, when you forgot the time and did come home too late. Where your family was used to give hugs and kisses to say Hi and See you. In my family we did not use Goodbye, because I hoped, that it never would be necessary to say Goodbye to my kids – so we used See you, when we did need to apart for school, work etc.

First we need to be able to identify our own feelings and look behind and see, what we need f.x. attention from our partner, to create a close relationship by doing something together like just a mutual walk can do, it doesn’t need to be expensive excursions, less can do it.

Then we need to be able to identify our partners feelings and accept, that they maybe have another way to look at life than we have, but they are still good enough and not bad people, just because they are not acting or minding like we do.

Mutual respect is the code word for all relationships, without the respect, there are not so much to build at.

We are all different and have each our personal luggage with us, maybe our tools are different, but if we wish to, it is possible to learn to identify both our own and our partners feelings and then learn to act at those feelings in a positive way. We are allowed to open our mouth and talk together, try to find good ways for making our relationships more strong. To respect the others feelings is necessary. All feelings are allowed, we don’t need to act at all feelings, just accept that we have them. And also accept that our partner have their feelings, which are just so allowed as our own.

The way we are talking to each other show how healthy the relationship is. If you are able to talk silent and polite without screaming, even if you are really mad. Without to become hysterical, when you don’t get everything, as you would like to.

I’m sure you have also met leaders, who are cold and cynical. Try to tell them, that your kid is sick, so you have to go home now from your job. Then you will have the risk that you will need to look for another job very soon.

There are leaders, who have learned Emotional Intelligence. When you tell them, you need to go home caused the sick kid, they will ask you, what is wrong with your kid, what kind of sickness, then send you home very fast. Maybe also call you later same day or next just to hear, how it is going in your life now.

We can all act like small kids in kindergarten, who want the others toy or just their will, but we need to grow up mentally and act mature, when we leave our childhood and teenage periods.

Do you use Emotional Intelligence?

I hope you did enjoy your visit here. I will continue this topic in next weekend.

Irene

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This week, the prompt is ‘do’ or ‘don’t.’ Write about any subject at all, but make it about something you feel strongly about doing or avoiding; whether it’s yourself or others, it doesn’t matter.

“This post is part of SoCS: http://lindaghill.wordpress.com/2014/04/04/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-april-514/

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